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Something that I wanted to talk about is My Brother. He was living here (in Maryland) with his ex (Girlfriend A) for a while. Then he started cheating on her (like always) with this younger girl (Girlfriend C) about 4 weeks ago. There was a lot of stuff going on with Girlfriend A. About a week after he left her for good (but he will probably come back to her when he leaves his new fling and has to move back to Maryland again). Girlfriend A would not let him back in the house to get any of his things so he had to call the police to go and get his shit from her.

Girlfriend A started shit with me and I put her in her place. Then I told her that if she called my house again I would have her charged with telephone harassment. She was under the impression that my brother was living with me again. I had to fill her in on the fact that he had been cheating on her for weeks now and that My Brother wasn't living with me because I wasn't going to put myself thru another $900 telephone bill from him calling porn lines and that I am way too sick to be putting up with his or her shit anymore.

The next night she tried to call My Brother here at my house from the cell phone that she took back from My Brother (I guess she didn’t want me to get her number). She wanted me to give My Brother a message and I told her quite bluntly that she was a stupid bitch and that My Brother had been cheating on her and that I wasn't going to be his secretary. I gave her a number where she could reach My Brother, it was Girlfriend C's cell phone number. She then called him and told him that she wanted to say her good byes and that it was his fault and then she said that she had taken all of My Brother's Zanex that she had kept. My Brother then called her parents and told them to go and check on her in the basement. Apparently they found her on the floor of the basement and she couldn’t move, they had to call an ambulance to come get her. They put her in a mental hospital for a few days. Her parents now blame My Brother that she lost her job at the hospital, but that was her own fault.

When she had called me months ago to help her to order a bus ticket for My Brother to come back here I told her "do you really think he is going to stay this time?" and she told me that she loved him and they were going to get married and have a baby together. I told her that My Brother will never change " he is going to leave you as soon as he finds someone else" and she told me to stay out of their business, that it was me who talked him into leaving her the last time. So I couldn't help but to tell her "I told you so", the first chance that I had.

The younger girl isn't as bad as Girlfriend A, Girlfriend A is a psycho bitch that really stalks My Brother every time he leaves her and she was going to kill herself over a guy that left her so many times, I really think that she was trying to get him back, she is a nurse she would know how many pills it would take to kill her and I think that she took just enough to make herself sick, but not to die. The new girl is a Meth head, she lost 100 pounds in 1 year, that is impossible to do without serious drug use.

Girlfriend C (the new girl) said that she was pregnant by My Brother only 3 weeks after they started dating. What really worries me whether the baby is My Brother's or not. She keeps doing Meth, will the baby survive or be addicted when it is born? I really think that she already knew that she was pregnant and My Brother is just a better catch then the guy who really knocked her up. I also wonder if she really is pregnant. There is know way you can know within 2 weeks of being pregnant that you are.

I had a long talk with My Brother about wearing protection, and he said that he isn't ready to be a father and that he thought she was on birth control. He was really afraid. He told me that if she doesn't have an abortion he is going to kill himself. I told him that he better not tell her that or even ask her to get an abortion, because when he eventually leaves this girl she is really going to regret making that choice. I told him that you can't make a woman make that choice.

I think that he will tell her to get one anyway because I found out from his ex in Oklahoma (Girlfriend B, I still talk to her about once a week on the phone and just about everyday on the computer) that when she thought she was pregnant about 8 months ago, he told her the same thing and she told him to go ahead and kill himself because she wasn't going to live with that decision. Luckily, she wasn't pregnant and didn't have to figure out the hard way whether my brother would stick around or not.

But I can say that as soon as she started thinking she was pregnant My Brother started telling me that he was trying to save money to move back here, at the same time he bought her a ring and was pretending that he was coming out here just to visit and that he was defiantly coming back to her. It took him about 4 months to get his probation sorted out and in that time Girlfriend A had sent him over $5000 to fix his cars and thinking that he was coming out each time. My Brother only came back to Girlfriend A because she would take him and that she had money.

Back to the story, His girls keep telling me that they think that once he is faced with a baby he will grow up. I think that it is more like, when My Brother finally hits rock bottom and has no one to help he is going to have to grow up. As long as he has a woman in his life that will put up with him not working and not taking care of himself in anyway, he might then have a light-bulb go off that makes him realize that he has to take care of himself. And the other option is that he actually falls in love with a girl and she dumps him and then he might just see what it feels like to be hurt so badly, that is less likely to happen though since you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else.

I don't give him money for anything anymore. After I became good friends with his ex in Oklahoma. I found out that he was lying to me all of the time about the things he wanted money for and mostly he would tell me it was to see the doctor or for medication and I later found out that it was all used to buy drugs and alcohol. That really pisses me off. And he tries to tell me that Girlfriend B was lying to me, but she has details that she wouldn't have known if she hadn't been right there listening.

My Brother believes that my husband and me are rich. Admittedly, my husband has a good job with the government. But the more money you have the more bills you have to pay. It’s ridiculous that my family is always thinking that I am the bank of the family. And it's not even really my money, it would be different if I had a job, but my husband is already taking care of my grandmother because no one else wanted to live with her. My Brother always talks about paying me back and apparently he told my mother that the reason he doesn't have any money right now is because he paid me back all the money that he owes me, I haven’t seen a dime of the $320 he owes me.

I am pretty sure that he spent all of his money on drugs and that is why out of his $650 check he only had $150 left the very next day. He is now calling me and asking me for money because he can't afford to pay for his prescriptions. I felt bad telling him that I didn't have any money.

I felt even more guilty that I actually did have the money and I could have easily just went online and sent him $50. However, I don't know that it really was for his medications or not. He could just be out of money and he wants to buy some drugs. He also lies to his doctors and tells them that the last doctor prescribed him Adderall (which is an ADHD medication that gets you high if you don't really need it). He was stealing his girlfriends daughter's pills when he was in Oklahoma. He is just using the system to get drugs (legally he believes). I can't contribute to his habit if that is what he is doing.

Back to Girlfriend C (his current girlfriend), I don't like her at all, and that is before I found out that she was pregnant (or at least might be). She would come over to my house and just get on my computer without even asking. I had to turn off my computer when I knew they were coming over and tell them that it wasn't working just so that she would want to leave sooner. I felt like her and My Brother were just using my for Internet access. My Brother would sometimes just sit down at my computer and not even talk to me for hours while he was here.

Another thing that Girlfriend C would do is say "hand me the phone" not "may I please use your phone" or "could you hand me the phone, please?", that pissed me off so bad. Another less annoying but enough to piss me off was that when I get my period, I stock up on chocolate (like most woman) and she would come over and just start taking my chocolate out of my emergency jar without saying a word. I would have let her have some but Jeez, she really should have asked. And I have a mini fridge here in the basement because of my bad knees (so I don't have to go up and down the stairs too much) that I keep stocked with Mountain Dew. My brother always gets himself a soda when he comes over but she thought I liked her so she would just help herself to that too.

Now, my brother finally got all of his stuff out of his ex's (Girlfriend A's) place. He moved to New York to live with my mother last weekend (While I was in Canada) because without Girlfriend A, My Brother had nowhere to stay. He was living on friends’ floors and paying them $10 a day to live with them. He took Girlfriend C with him to NY too because he thought she was pregnant.

My Brother felt that if she was pregnant that he couldn't leave her. I really think that is what she was counting on because she quit her job 2 days before he was leaving and told him that she had nowhere to live if she didn't have a job. I really think that she is trying to trap him.